I didn’t shower after my run today [eww]. Instead I just changed into dry clothes because I wanted to get my YOGA on! I’m so glad I went because today’s class was one of my favorites yet! Lots of flow and all my favorite poses in my favorite order! One of those classes with a sequence that made me feel like a dancer.
During savasana, I was thinking [I know you’re not supposed to think but I often try to channel my scatterbrain thoughts into life reflections]…
I can’t believe I’m almost 28
I can’t believe I love yoga
I can’t believe I am married!
I can’t believe we sold our house
I can’t believe we don’t live in Charlotte anymore
I can’t believe we packed up our whole house and moved
I can’t believe the move is over
I can’t believe we live in Charlottesville
I can’t believe my internship is over
I can’t believe I’m a Registered Dietitian
I can’t believe I took the RD exam already!
I can’t believe my job is to write a blog
I felt like time had traveled too fast and that I should be back in our house in Charlotte studying for some chemistry test. I’ve been thinking about getting married, my internship, becoming an RD, moving to Charlottesville for YEARS and I can’t believe they have all come and gone.
I. Feel. So. Lucky.
I didn’t feel any more tired in yoga because of my earlier run, but I could tell a difference in my appetite! I didn’t finish breakfast till almost 9 but I was already getting hungry by noon. On a normal day we eat closer to 7:30 and I can easily get through yoga without a growling stomach.
When I got home at 1:30, I devoured this lunch
Sauteed kale + apple scrambled with 1.5 eggs and some cheddar cheese [thanks to Matt for making it!]
Great Harvest Tomato Herb Bread toasted with butter [In LOVE with this bread!]
Not sure it was enough…I’m almost ready for a snack! ha!
In my topic request post, many of you asked for more from Matt. He has agreed to write a weekly post on a topic of his choice! Here’s the first of many: thoughts on getting your partner to eat healthier.
Matt On Food
I’ve seen some questions from blog readers generally directed towards me that ask, “How can I get my husband to eat better?” Well, I have some suggestions, but I may not be the best person to give this advice. See, I’ll try any food. ANY food. And I like a lot of different foods. Don’t get me wrong – like most humans I adore the flavors of salty and fatty (not as much sweet though). But I also recognize how much better I feel when I eat a variety of foods.
If only it were easier to convey that feeling that you get from a healthy lifestyle. Diverse diet, filling meals, mental and physical activity, and satisfying accomplishments equal a very enjoyable life, but I really don’t know if you can make somebody experience that. I think they really have to try it themselves. Still, I do have some advice for anyone who has trouble eating well, particularly the stereotypical male who believes a meal isn’t complete without meat, and the only vegetable they eat is potatoes.
The way I see it, there are three main problems people like this face:
1) They have a stigma against eating food that is labeled “healthy.”
2) They believe that “healthy food” isn’t a complete, filling meal.
3) They believe (sometimes rightfully so) that “healthy food” doesn’t taste good.
Let’s talk about the first one because it’s the easiest. Flat out, it’s just immature. You can tell them I said that. I really have no tolerance for people like this who completely close their mind to new ideas. It makes me so angry that I’ve just decided it’s better for my well-being to just let these people kill themselves and not worry about it.
However, there are a few people who fit into category 1 who have had negative experiences with healthy food, and that’s a little more forgivable to me. I’m talking about when Grandma boils nasty collard greens in a pot for an hour and turns them to a sulfuric, grey mush. Who could possibly enjoy food like that? I think people like this fit into the other two categories.
A lot of men feel that a meal must have meat, and that somehow, if you don’t have meat with a meal it’s not going to be filling enough. That’s crazy talk. But I do have some suggestions if this is the kind of guy you’re dealing with. First, you have to prove to them how filling a vegetarian meal can be. Might I recommend a vegetarian chili? Foods like this are a great transition to appreciating vegetarian meals – chili is still pretty manly, beans are incredibly filling, and best of all you can spice and season it up so that it tastes amazing. The bottom line is that you have to find those foods that are so comfortingly filling that they have no choice but to be satisfied after eating.
And speaking of chili, this kinda transitions into category 3. You can’t take somebody who eats hamburgers and fries all the time and immediately get them to start eating tempeh stir fry. You really have to spend some time on the intermediate steps. Once again, chili can be made so deliciously that you’ll never miss the meat. Load that sucker up with flavorful and savory spices – lots of paprika, chili powder, cumin, crushed and whole black pepper, subtle herbs like oregano… Nothing increases the satisfaction and flavor of a meal like having a complex and diverse number of ingredients. Consider fresh tomatoes, diced in a can, and tomato paste all together in a chili – each brings a subtle variation that rounds out the flavor profile. And for the meat lover, consider using ingredients that have a meaty flavor like Worcestershire sauce, mushrooms, and even liquid smoke.
For an adult, it’s not about tricking them into eating healthy, or forcing it upon them. You have to show them how good the alternative can be. Of course, a subtle reminder here and there about the benefits of eating better might help get the point across! Season well, hard, and often!
Freya (Brit Chick Runs) says
I really liked hearing from Matt! That’s going to be a really interesting little series 🙂
My step dad used to live off junk, but over the years (&years…) he’s been living with us, he’s slowly changed. It can happen, it just takes time! Let them think it’s their idea 😛
I’m surprised you took the R.D. exam so quickly too! One of my instructors finished up her internship like 6 months ago and is STILL studying for it, haha 😀 Charlottesville has the name ‘Charlotte’ in it, so I guess you really haven’t escaped that aspect, lol. But it looks like a beautiful place! So happy for you 🙂 All of the things that are on your “I can’t believe list”..are on my future to-do list 😉
[email protected] says
I’m always super hungry after yoga too! It’s hard not to devour the whole pantry when I get home 🙂 Although I’ve never thought of eggs and apples as my recovery meal. YUM!
Valerie @ City|Life|Eats says
Isn’t it crazy how sometimes life just falls into place.
Also, I love Matt’s approach to food – he’s really right – it is all about transitions.
Holly @ couchpotatoathlete says
Kath you have done so much and you should be very proud! But yes, time goes by so quickly!
Matt I loved your addition to this post. I remember one of the first times I made a salad for my husband (we were still dating at the time) — I loaded that thing up with turkey breast, veggies, chopped apples, cranberries, etc, tons of stuff. He said “is this even considered a salad anymore?” — I explained that “salad” does not mean “iceberg lettuce, tomato chunks and a slice of red onion” — it can be a hearty, delicious meal!
Is millet supposed to have a slight crunch after cooking?
I just bought my first bag of it and cooked some last night….
Hmmm..crunch not really. Perhaps you didn’t cook it long enough? It takes about 20 minutes with a 3:1 water to grain ratio
Sarah (OC2Seattle) says
Love the Matt post! Now, if only my husband ate beans . . . 😉
jamie @ jamelafamela says
i HATE when people won’t at least give a food a chance- just try it once!!! SO FRUSTRATING i agree with you there, Matt.
Glad you enjoyed Yoga— at least if you’re thinking you’re thinking positively!
Matt’s post was great! Thanks for including your Hubby 🙂 My hubby has actually just started his own blog: Gluten Moose 🙂 to caveat my GF lifestyle. He complies willingly and happily, but at times, he just wants some real bread! Can’t blame him 🙂
Love your “unbelieveables”! My life parallels yours a lot… and I always think it’s funny when I still can’t believe I’m married, and it’s been 3 years! Congrats on such amazing things in your life, and the fact that you appreciate everything you have!
Great post by Matt! I am a vegetarian, and it took my hubs awhile to realize he didn’t need meat at every meal. I think he eats more meat-free meals than meat now! I also think that living with someone who eats healthy eventually rubs off on the person… he now checks labels for HFCS + artificial sweeteners and makes sure the ingredient list is low. NEVER thought that would happen! I am definitely a big believer in “lead by example”.
Kathy W. says
Great post, Matt! And so true.
Hmm, sliced kiwis…furbabies?
Allison K says
Good post Matt.
My husband grew up in a meat and potatoes family and I”m pretty sure the onl vegetables my father-in-law will eat are as follows: canned corn (which, as we know is NOT a vegetable), canned pea, canned green beans, lettuce, and tomato. Ugh.
Luckily, my husband will try anything, and even though he starts out with a look of trepidation, he enjoys the food. Except for Kale Chips. he won’t touch those.
My husband’s favorite foods are bacon, beef, all other porks and chicken – in that order. I made homemade mac and cheese once and he said, “this is a side dish, where is the meat.” I am OK with it, he eats everything I make but it must include meat. He is in fantastic shape and his cholesterol is 110 so I can’t say much about it 🙂
I think part of it is generational, we are older than you guys and I have noticed that men in your generation are open to so many more things than older guys are. You do set a great example for any men reading this blog!
Kristy@ KristyRuns.com says
Time is moving waaay too fast for me, too. Married, house, dog, career. Super fortunate!
P.s. Nice post, Matt!
Brittany (A Healthy Slice of Life) says
I’m so happy for you and all your accomplishments!! I have a profession/ blog-related question. How do you make money from KERF? Ads? I’m actually not looking to try and blog for a living, I’m actually just more curious as to the logistics… can you share?
Do you see the “KERF Sponsors” ads on either side of the page? They are from the Foodbuzz network, which pays bloggers a fraction of a cent every time the page refreshes and the ad is shown.
Jasmine @ Eat Move Write says
You are lucky. It’s cool you know that. We are all lucky in our own way, but you are very inspiring to have created such a wonderful, positive life and career.
I’m always battling with getting my hubs to eat better. Thanks Matt!
Thanks to Matt! I cannot wait to share this with my husband. Perhaps, he will more respect a man’s perspective on healthy eating!!
Gabriela @ Une Vie Saine says
Great post!! It’s hard to believe how quickly time passes, I know. I loved Matt’s tips- luckily my boyfriend is pretty adventurous, but there are still some foods he refuses to eat!
i love how yoga makes you really reflect on your life. i think it’s really wonderful that you can recognize how fortunate you are and i love that you shared that with us. congratulations on all of your achievements, kath!
I never knew chili was manly.
Hillary [Nutrition Nut on the Run] says
Don’t ya wish life could just slow done for 1 second? Holy moly – I do! I want to stay 21 forever : )
It’s funny that Matt just wrote a post about how to get guys to eat better – specifically by making chili. I made chili last night for us to watch during the game and I was thinking it would have been SO easy (and much less expensive) to just leave out the meat. You don’t really taste it anyway. I throw so many ingredients in there – including beer – and it always turns out different but good. We’ve decided to do one or two meatless meals a week, just to see how it goes. So far so good. Congrast on all the accomplishments! And thanks for the post Matt!
I love this post, Kath. You have accomplished a lot at a young age, but the fun part is you have many more exciting milestones ahead of you. So fun to hear from Matt, too! Great insights, too. I’m happy to report my bf now eats broccolli cuz I cook it and it is just there. Slow and steady. 😉
Wow. I meant to eat while watching the game.
Kristi @ Hiding in Honduras says
Congrats on all your accomplishments, Kath! I know what you mean about waiting to do things forever and then they finally happen! My husband and I have been living in Honduras for 7 months as Peace Corps volunteers, we just celebrated our 2nd anniv, and I just turned 25! Feels like a dream sometimes!
Little Bookworm says
Great post, and I love Matt’s post at the end. Sounds like an interesting series of posts. 🙂
CathyK @ www.1970kikiproject.wordpress.com says
congrats on all the lifestyle adjustments you have successfully transitioned through, kath! and may you have many more ahead of you!
glad you enjoyed yoga – haha, i always think through savasana, too. can’t help it!
Do you eat the skin on kiwis? I always eat the flesh out of the kiwi halves like an egg cup. 🙂
Great post! My husband is a willing participant in all healthy eating, but won’t take the lead. If it were up to him, just because he doesn’t really think like I do, his eating would devolve into meat, fast food, chips, etc. Not because he doesn’t like to eat well, but because he doesn’t think about it. So I can get frustrated that I feel like I’m leading him by the nose, but in general, I’m pretty lucky that he’s happy to follow along. (He even willingly ate the tempeh stir-fry that I myself couldn’t force myself to eat–just don’t know how ya’ll eat that stuff 😉
Love the guest post from Matt, I have forwarded it on to some friends who are desperately trying to get their husbands to eat healthier. Great points about transitioning slowly, I think sometimes we force ourselves to change too much too fats and then end up giving up.
Anna @ Newlywed, Newly Veg says
It’s always so interesting getting a male perspective on food– usually SO different from the female!
Lol– your yoga thoughts made me laugh. I’m always the same way– “clear your mind”– yeah right! 🙂
Love all of the thoughts going through your brain during yoga 🙂 You’ve accomplished so much and have so much to look forward to! Loved Matt’s post. Chris definitely used to be a meat + potatoes guy, but I also ate meat at least once a day! We transitioned together, with no forcing or pushing on my part. We share this lifestyle together + I love it. Although Chris does still eat meat about twice a week. It’s been pretty easy getting local meat, when dining out in Colorado! I love what Matt had to say about category 1 😉
Bonnie @garbanzogreen says
I totally appreciate Matt’s perspective. I think baby steps are the most realistic way to go and showing that you can eat healthy but HEARTY meals is super important.
I’ve learned to never assume that someone is a meat-lover just because they’ve always eaten meat. They just don’t know what they’re missing if they haven’t experimented with other foods/spices/combinations. Patience, patience, patience.
Caitlin (EatFeats) says
Haha, I like Matt’s forwardness. It is refreshing.
Mary @ Bites and Bliss says
Time really does fly! I can’t believe I’m already a junior in college!! I know, sounds young..but it still amazes me!
You are lucky 🙂 You have a fabulous life.
Chelsea @ Strawberry Sweat says
It’s amazing how fast life moves. Though not to discount time, but you’ve done SO much in just a few short years! Be proud of that!
Love the guest post by Matt. I am definitely going to send this one on to my boyfriend with a little *nudge* 🙂
Lisa @bakebikeblog says
hah ayes I have had those realisations (well the being married one and the ‘oh my god we are building a house’ ones!)
And thanks for the post Matt – like yourself, Mr BBB is not afraid to try new foods and has no qualms with what arrives on the dinner table 🙂
Thank you so much, Matt. Rather than tell my boyfriend everything you said, I am going to have him read it. I think he may really take it to heart.
I really liked Matt’s post and think his advice is great. I’m looking forward to this weekly addition!
Kaci Higgins says
Kath, this post was perfect for me right now! I’m a 5th year senior seeking a degree in psychology but don’t really know what I want to do with it. I feel pressured to attempt grad school, but I have no clue what I would be interested in nor do I really have the drive/passion to do it right now. I feel like real world experience will benefit me the most. I love reading about your journey of how you arrived at your passion. 🙂 CONGRATS ON EVERYTHING YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED!
To Matt, thank you so much for this! I’ve been trying to help my boyfriend eat better, but it’s been a pretty tough battle. I will try all of your advice! 🙂
I just graduated in May with a degree in Psych! I decided to take time off before grad school because I had no idea what I wanted to do and didn’t want to waste time and money! Soo instead I moved from Orlando to Chicago and am living with relatives until I get a job and move into the city! I think you should wait for grad school too:)
I love the last sentence!!
[email protected] says
I did a run and a yoga class today too 🙂 Loved it! It was more yogalates actually. And thank you to Matt for that post- my husband is struggling to really commit to eating healthy. Case in point: he ordered Dominos for lunch today. i was not home. That wouldn’t have happened if I was. He grew up eating junk, though, and that’s hard for him to let go, although he has changed a lot of his eating habits since we’ve been married! I don’t want to be too strict but I am so passionate about eating healthy so I’m trying to just be patient and encouraging.
I loved this post! Grattitude is such a good feeling 🙂
Jillian @ Reshape Your Life says
I love Matt’s tips on helping someone to eat healthier!
I really enjoyed Matt’s post. My husband has become such a better eater over the years we’ve been married, but he still has a few vegetable hang ups. I’m convinced it’s due to how his mother prepared certain foods when he was growing up. The word squash just has a negative connotation to him; even if he tries it and likes it, it’s still hard for him to see it as tasty; all he sees or hears is squash and to him, squash = gross. We’re working on it though. 🙂
Leslie @ Chomp! says
thanks so much for the little blurb by matt. that really gave me some great perspective about my boyfriend. we don’t match up in the least when it comes to food/lifestyle and i need to be reminded about it taking time and that there are lots of steps that it will take. he may never like some of the food i do, but the more i introduce him to delicious food, the healthier we will be 🙂
Jessica @ The Process of Healing says
The apple/cheddar/kale combo sounds AWESOME!
And I love hearing rom Matt!
My boyfriend enjoys healthy meals that include meat, but it’s really hard to convince him that he can be satisfied with a vegetarian meal for dinner. So I’m taking baby steps…incorporating 1-2 veggie dinners per week, using beans, lentils, soups. If we could save money by limiting to only 1-2 meat dinners per week like you, I would be so happy! Another thing we need to work on is eating out less;) Seems we just get lazy on weekends and have lunch and dinner out (or take-out) both days!
the reason you feel so lucky is because that is God blessing you with those things, it didnt come from anything else. Its all from the Creator who blesses His children
that’s nice of you to say, but I like to think I’ve worked very hard too 🙂
Great post – I have slowly been introducing vegetarian meals in our meal planning over the past 5 years, and my husband claims that he is a “supertaster” who is genetically sensitive to bitterness. It has been a process, but he learned that he loves chickpeas, portabella mushrooms and tofu glazed in hoisin sauce. I continually tell him that one of the reasons I love him is because he is open-minded to new things…. even if he secretly despises those veggies!
Nice tag teaming. I like when Matt posts to get a different perspective, and it helps us learn more about you too, Kath.
You have so much to be proud of…I have a hard time keeping my mind still during savasana, but I agree that it’s a great time to be self-reflective. Any kind of quiet time can be a blessing.
Maybe it’s time to add “have a baby” to that list of accomplishments?
Apples and scrambled eggs? Hmmmm not sure about that combo…..
We have to open the bakery first!
J3nn (Jenn's Menu and Lifestyle Blog) says
You have accomplished so much in your short time, Kath! Don’t feel bad, I’d love to be 28 again. I can’t believe I’m going to be 31 in 3 months! Aaaah, where is the “slow down” lever? hahaha
I bought some coconut water and cocoa bliss and thought of you!! 😀
Simply put: a TERRIFIC post!!
Nice job Matt, great advice.
Nicole, RD says
You are blessed 🙂
I love Matt’s section on getting hubbys to eat better. My hubby is pretty good, so I’m thankful for that!
Laura (Starloz) says
best post i’ve read in ages kath, your so blessed & matts bit, incredible powerful.
i also love that you eat kiwi with the fur(skin). i’m obsessed!
Long, long time reader, first time poster from Perth Western Australia. Have always enjoyed your blog and so happy that life is good for such a kind, caring person. I really enjoy all the photos of your beautiful country and the trips you two guys take together.
Matt, hope no offense is taken but I think that you seem to of lost too much weight over the past 3 years. In some photos you appear very gaunt and drawn?
Could just be my perception, but just wanted to make the comment. Keep up the blogging and enjoying your lovely life together.
I think he looks nice and healthy (and I see him from all angles!) And his BMI is right in the middle of healthy.
I don’t weigh myself too often, but every time I do, it’s somewhere around 163 +/- 3. I’m feeling good so I’m not really concerned… although this would be an excellent excuse to drink lots more beer!
Hey Kath, that’s all that matters hey!
Matt, as an Aussie I agree on the excuse for beer drinking.
Keep up the great work guys.
You could definitely use more beers, drink up! 🙂
Matt, you rock!
You are right … my husband LOVES my veggie chili! He also really liked a black bean soup I made a while back. Good thoughts, and I totally agree with your philosophy of, “Diverse diet, filling meals, mental and physical activity, and satisfying accomplishments.”
Anne @ Food Loving Polar Bear says
Matt is great, I liked reading about his thoughts 🙂
chelsey @ clean eating chelsey says
“For an adult, it’s not about tricking them into eating healthy, or forcing it upon them” – it’s funny you say this because I trick my husband into eating well all. the. time. 🙂
Thanks for the tips, and I agree… baby steps are probably the easiest way to go about doing things!!! My husband agrees to “try something new” about once a week. So far, he has eaten eggplant, gluten free muffins, and stuffed acorn squash. Hurrah!
Kath and Matt – You two are some of the most grounded, hard-working, good-hearted “young adults” I’ve come to know. The feeling of success and contentment you are reflecting is so well-deserved. I am so excited to see your future unfold. Beautiful job on this team post! Best, Karen
Thanks Karen – that means a lot 🙂
Love the post from Matt!! My husband falls into categories 1 and 3. It’s been a long process but I’m learning to cook veggies in a way he’ll enjoy. I made eggplant parmesan on Labor Day and got the following feedback: “I can’t taste the eggplant. And this is healthy… but if I gotta eat eggplant, this is how I want to do it.” For him, that’s a rave review. Never thought I’d see the day he’d eat eggplant parmesan or stuffed peppers (tonight’s meal plan)!
Bee Goes Bananas says
Thanks for sharing some of Matt’s thoughts with us! It’s so interesting to hear from the partners of food bloggers and see their personality. Interesting post!!
Great post by Matt!! As a nonmeat-eating wife of a meat & potatoes man, I found it very interesting. Just the other day I commented on the cooler temps and said, “I need to make chili soon”. His reply was “just make sure you put some meat in it”. Hmmmpf!
Okay, so I know chili is a great “intermediate” food for a meat-eater, can you suggest some more?
BTW Kath, I’ve been wanting to comment on how much you and Matt must be enjoying all this time together! Be sure to relish this time as it gets sooo much more difficult once you have kids!
Hi Kath, FYI – not sure why, but this particular post did not appear in my Google Reader.
It didn’t show up in mine either – I got to it by another blogger referral…hmmm
I thought this was a great post from Matt! My tactic to “get” my boyfriend to eat healthier is just to cook dinner the way I’d eat it – and since he doesn’t cook much himself, he just resigns to my “healthy” food and usually enjoys it.
Now, if we can only get a post about how to get your man to cook……. 😉
I think it is immature for Matt to say things like, ” I really have no tolerance for people like this who completely close their mind to new ideas. It makes me so angry that I’ve just decided it’s better for my well-being to just let these people kill themselves and not worry about it.”
This post didn’t show up in my Reader also and was brought to my attention by a friend because of Matt’s condescending blurb. I used to very much enjoy reading this blog but have decided to remove it from my Reader as it has become a blog that I cannot relate to at all.
OK, embarrassing meat question….I feel like you almost need meet at every meal (and I’m female!). How do you get the right amount of complete proteins without eating tofu (sorry, doesn’t fly in our family), rice and beans (which you can oly make SO many ways!), and meat? Do you worry about health? How often is meat needed? I worry because I have a one year old (insert my usual comment here about how we are one day apart in age Kath and I SO wish you had a baby so I knew what to do!) and I want to make sure she gets enough meat.
Tara, you definitely don’t need meat at every meal. There are plenty of ways to get the nutrients you need. Think of it as a tally throughout the week instead of at each meal – the body will balance out. The most important nutrients from meats depend on the meats, but for high quality proteins, vitamin B12, iron, vitamin D you can get them from other foods too (although maybe not AS good of a source in the case of iron or protein). Beans, nuts, seeds, dairy products (ALL of them!), grains like quinoa, tofu (indeed), and even multivitamins (but real food would be preferred) provide these. I eat meat maybe 3/7 days a week.
I love Matt’s post. He’s a good writer! I don’t really agree with what he said about letting the people out there “kill themselves”, though… that’s a little harsh. Just sayin’.
You are an incredibly lucky woman, but don’t forget that you put in a lot of work to get where you are too!
[email protected] says
Loving the post, Matt! It’s great to hear from a guy’s perspective.
By the way, I’m ALWAYS thinking about things going on in my life and what I need to get done during savasana. I can’t help it!
Mary (What's Cookin' with Mary) says
Really enjoyed hearing your perspective Matt. Very thoughtful! My husband is like you. He’ll try ANYTHING, at least once, and for that I am grateful. The only thing he says he *won’t* eat is quinoa & couscous… it’s a texture thing.
I believe that healthy food should taste good. Don’t get me wrong, a plates of raw/ plain cut veggies is yummy to me, but put that infront of someone who eats greasy pizza for lunch everyday and it would be quite a stretch. Starting small is the way to go here. If food smells good, tastes good and is filling… why wouldn’t you want to eat it ?! Right? Right. 🙂
Can’t wait for more Matt posts ! Can I just say that you both have bangin’ writing skills. Makes me want to read more.
I 100% agree with the proper cooking/seasoning of healthy foods to get people to buy in to eating that way versus what their past experiences were with plain, boring, overcooked foods. My husband used to turn his nose up at meatless meals, but over the last 3 years, spicy and flavorful vegetarian dishes “beefed up” with beans and lentils have become some of his favorite meals!