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They always say that the strongest relationships bring out the best in one another. Thomas and I are similar in so many ways. We are both strong-willed and driven, goofy and a little dorky (but we think we’re cool), eager to solve problems, and lovers of many of the same things: iMessage (which we discussed in detail on our first date), playing soccer, and Half Baked ice cream, to name a few. We often finish each other’s thoughts. I can’t tell you how many times we’ve said “I was just about to say that!” or we call each other at the same time.
We complement one another in other ways though, and these are some of the things that Thomas has taught me.
Doing things the right way
I love a good short cut, but Thomas is go big or go home. Whether it’s building things, the way he runs his business, making a purchase, or simply cooking a meal, the guy does not cut corners. In our wedding vows I wrote “You have taught me that anything worth doing is worth doing right.” He is the tortoise, I am the hare. He wins every time!
The Benefit of The Rinse-Off Shower
Much to his embarrassment, I’m confessing to you all that Thomas takes a LOT of showers. You might think of that as wasteful, but he is very quick (sometimes less than one minute). He always smells so clean, and I have picked on the habit as well. I have come to realize how much better I feel taking a quick rinse-off shower too, perhaps when my workout is hours away, when I’m heading out to the beach, or I’ve gotten just a little sweaty during the day. I used to be a consistent once-a-day showerer (usually late morning after my workout) but sometimes I will hop in just to rinse off and feel so much more energized for the day or night.
I tend to hold grudges, and it’s hard for me to shake off emotions. This is probably because I am a Scorpio! When Thomas comes into conflict, he wants to solve the problem and forgive right away. He’s taught me that nothing good comes out of holding a grudge and made me a better person for it. We have had very few fights in our time together because we don’t let anger override respect.
I used to wear my daily outfit until I got into my PJs for bed, but Thomas has taught me the wonderful feeling of changing into lounge clothes right after dinner. The extra change of clothes seemed too much for my brain, but it takes 10 seconds to do! I’d watch him change into cozy clothes and feel all stiff in my jeans and shirts, so I started adopting the habit too. Turns out my Lou & Grey cozies are SO much more comfortable for evening TV and tea. Speaking of tea, T makes a cup of tea every night, and now our nights would be weird without it! I always have Sleepytime with a teaspoon of honey.
Sports Are Kinda Fun!
I’ve never really been into watching sports, except for Duke Basketball, but I’ve also never really had a good reason to watch. My life turned upside-down upon marrying a sports-a-holic! You might think that I’d be annoyed with all of the watching (football season, golf season, basketball, soccer, hockey – it’s year round and never-ending!) but instead I’ve really tried to embrace it all. Joining a Fantasy Football team made all the difference! (Sorry, I can’t get into hockey…)
I could go on and on about the ways this man has changed my life! We each wrote our own vows, mirroring the same format, but we ended them with the same line:
I promise to give you the best of myself, for I know that together we will build a life far better than either of us can imagine alone.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
So so sweet, Kath!! I love to look nice/dressed nice when Matt gets home, but then I love to get changed into my lounge clothes after dinner. You feel so much more relaxed & at ease. I sometimes think it’s wasteful, but there are definitely times I will take a quick shower/rinse off even after already showering. Sometimes it feels so nice to do after work. Or as you said, before a workout planned later in the day. You & Thonas compliment each other so well. I’m incredibly happy for you!
Mallory Whitman says
Very sweet, love is a beautiful thing!
Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog says
Happy Valentine’s Day! I loved this post, so sweet. Hope you have a great day, Kath! 🙂
Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
How sweet! Happy Valentine’s day! <3
I love this post. You have to experience a live game to fully appreciate hockey. I promise you will love it live. Happy Valentine’s Day!
That’s what he says!! I’m sure it’s more fun live 🙂
Brittany Dixon says
Cozy clothes after dinner (or shoot, sometimes by 3:00 PM) are the best! Love seeing sneak peeks into other people’s love stories. Y’all seem like such a wonderful fit and I’m so happy for you! <3
I love reading about your happiness – thanks for adding some extra Valentine’s Day cheese to my day – it’s my favorite!!!!
That is very, very sweet. and I am not NOT about to cry. LOL Thank you for putting some love and positivity into the atmosphere today.
Such a sweet post!!
You forgot about baseball season, which IS never-ending. I’m engaged to a sports-a-holic and although it grates my nerves sometimes, I also appreciate the passion he has for the game and his teams. My fiance also constantly showers, which used to drive me crazy, but you are so right – he always smells so clean, which I think I’ve taken for granted all these years.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Am i the only one that takes off my bra the second I’m home and is in something with an elastic waistband before I’ll even consider doing anything else? Haha my mom always got cozy right when she got home and I couldn’t imagine it any other way!
Kelli H says
I’m with ya! Bras gotta come off.
I have been reading for everyday for A LONG TIME and I am so happy that you are happy!
And also, can’t wait for your cute babies! (sorry, had to say it! you guys are going to have some adorable kids!)
I love the “getting cozy” comment. We call our cozy clothes our “uniforms,” and change into them after walking in the door for the day. We both keep them behind our pillows on our bed, and throw them in the wash once a week. Although I could wear my “uniform” all day if I could get away with it 🙂
Uniform! Love it.
Very sweet post – I’m happy you have each other. My husband is also the tortoise and I’m the hare. Would be interesting to hear what he’s learned from you, but even more – I’d love to hear about this iMessage convo!!! ?
Ah. Thomas is teaching me things too, and he gave me my first granddog!
Kelli H says
This is such a sweet post. Loved it. My husband and I always put comfy clothes on right when we get home from work. It’s the best!
Linda @ the Fitty says
so sweet. Happy Valentine’s Day! Does he take cold, or hot showers?
This is adorable! I laughed when I read about the rinse off showers. My boyfriend does the same thing! He calls it a “re-set” and I’m totally on board now 🙂
Ah so sweet! You two are a great pair!
Phoenix Plumber says
I love the pictures! So sweet!
I adore this so much!!! I too love the feeling of a quick rinse in the shower & my hubs & I always go straight to comfy clothes when we get home! I have always enjoyed fashion & have an embarrassingly large amount of clothes but when I get home, all I want is my sweatpants. ha
The shower thing – there is something to that. I feel so refreshed after a shower. I tend to only take a shower after working out, but if I get up in the morning and don’t have time for a workout (blah), I feel like crap…but taking a quick shower perks me up somewhat. It’s also nice when you are cold and crave the hot water 🙂
I’ve been reading before you went back for your RD so even though I don’t know you, I feel like I know blog-you if that makes sense? Years ago, I commented that my parents would be so mad at me if they shucked out Davidson type money for school and then I took an unconventional career path – I didn’t mean it as a criticism – but you got offended and your mom was all WELL ACTUALLY defensive.
Anyway, you seem so different since you and Thomas met . . . in all of the best ways. It’s nice to see such genuine happiness. Go you!
Well I am still offended by that comment 🙂
Haha! That’s awesome.
I think T is a golfer based on some of your posts…..are you considering taking up the sport? I thought golf seemed like the most boring sport / hobby in the history of the world when I was growing up, but when I met my husband he was a big golfer and so I gave it a try and now I’m totally addicted and it’s my favorite all time sport (and I have played many sports in the past). Also, it’s one of our favorite things to do together now, especially on vacation together at beautiful destinations.
Such a unique sport in that you can be a scratch golfer and enjoy playing with your children or parents or grandparents or people of any age or ability. What other sport can you say that about!
He is a huuuuge golfer and I would love to learn. We have played together twice and I did ok. I really need to get my own left handed used set of clubs and practice. I have to find the time too! But I agree with you – seems like such a great sport.
Awesome! Get yourself a good starter set and sign up at your local course to take a few lessons from a pro to get going (I DO NOT recommend that wives take lessons from their husbands, even in good marriages ha ha….I’ve seen it too many times on the range and it never goes well for either party 🙂
I think you will soon be addicted and it makes watching golf on TV a LOT more fun and engaging.
Also you might enjoy joining the lpgawomensnetwork.com website…..lots of good tips / lessons / features for lady golfers and especially for the beginning golfer. It’s the new LPGA initiative to grow the game for women golfers.
Haha!! Great advice 🙂
What a sweet sweet post! Happy Valentine’s Day to you! Fun fact- my name is Cathrene and my husband is also Thomas but goes by Tommy.
Lovely post! It made me think about the things my husband has taught me. So nice to read such a genuine and positive post.
And, now I’m in the market for some cosy clothes!
Love this post. Love your love. Happy Valentine’s Day, but from a person who is living in a drought-affected area I think it’s wasteful to shower so much. Sorry to be the negative nelly here, but showering that much is bad for your hair, your skin, and the environment. https://www.elitedaily.com/women/in-defense-of-not-showering/915527
Jolene (www.everydayfoodie.ca) says
I love this post! Love makes me soooo happy! I think you and Thomas would get along so well with my husband and I.
Wish we lived in the same city then!
Kath I am behind on reading but this. THIS POST. is so so good. so sweet!
I am so very happy for you. I can just see and hear it in your words. I love you girl! So happy !
Thomas sounds like such a gem. He actually sounds a lot like Dan! (my hubby!)
I tell you, in the 24 years we have been married, never once have we eaten a meal in anything but sweats or comfy clothes. haha He changes into basketball shorts about 2.5 seconds after coming home from work in his khakis. haha He is my best friend and you have found yours. 🙂
Have wonderful spring, and know that I am sending lots of love from Indiana! XOXO
oh and Mazen could not be any cuter! Like seriously the kid is ADORBS.
Aw I loved this! I think he should write one too! 😉