Until this year, this month, this week, I have been building and growing.
An adult set of responsibilities.
A new city.
A new dwelling.
A new business.
A new house.
A baby HUMAN.
While the above mentioned are always going to need attention, maintenance and planning, I’m feeling a sense of peace this year. We’re not planning to have another baby (yet) and our careers are established and running. We are adults. We are grown-ups.
So much time is spent planning for the future that I’ve wondered when (if?) life hits a sort of stasis – an age or experience level when you’ve done most “adult” things at least once and the learning curve slows down.
Of course I don’t mean life literally slows down – there are always unexpected events and tasks – but there has to be a place where you have reached the top of the mountain and get to hike along the peak and enjoy the views.
Maybe this doesn’t happen until you’re 40 or an empty nester with grown kids or perhaps not until you hit 90 years old. I’m sure it’s different for every person. But what I’m trying to say is that I feel like I’ve reached some degree of adult contentment. A lot of things adults do I have been doing for a long time. I am no longer a newbie at buying insurance, paying bills or cooking my own meals. Even when things do go awry, I have a better idea of how to handle them than I did when I was fresh out of college. (Like a broken air conditioning.)
Running a household is no joke. I now know why home economics classes used to be taken seriously. If, in addition to cooking healthy food, doing laundry and paying the bills, if you’re also going to iron your linens, bake bread from scratch and create crafts to do with your kids everyday, you have to be really organized. (Not that I have experience with any of those!)
Part of this contentment I’m feeling in 2014 comes from figuring out how to run my household like a machine. I’ve spent my early adulthood figuring out what works for me and while my house still needs fuel and attention, it runs pretty smoothly. I think I finally found a system that hums, and I plan to share the details in a follow-up post.
I hope this year is a year to enjoy life a little bit more and worry less about tomorrow.