I have some news to share with you guys today. I’m nervous about it! There’s always a divide between wanting to be completely honest and wanting to keep my personal life totally private. But the thing is: you deserve the truth because I know so many of you care.
Matt and I are separating.
Some of you are probably shocked and others have suspected, as he hasn’t been as front and center on the blog as he once was. This wasn’t an overnight decision, but something that has been building, or rather unraveling, for over a year.
Matt and I met when we were 18 years old. Teenagers. We immediately fell for each other and started dating mid-way through our freshman year of college. We never looked back because we knew we’d make great life partners. And we have been great partners. Six years of dating led to eight years of marriage and that’s where we are today. We’ve been together almost 15 years – nearly half of our lives – and we grew up together. But we have started traveling down separate paths that have made us question our identity as individuals. We don’t know yet if this separation will lead to a divorce – we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. But for now, we’re changing our relationship from that of husband and wife to one of co-parents and friends.
Our separation is bittersweet and totally mutual. We have Mazen as our priority every step of the way, and his happiness is most important to us both in this process. We think he’s a little too young to understand what’s going on, and we hope to maintain as much normalcy as we can to his life. This post Janae wrote made me cry, but also gave me hope. I know with the right attitudes and lots of love Mazen will be ok. I will continue to live in our house, so he will maintain a sense of home that he has known, but he’ll also get to spend time with his dad at his new place too.
Totally unrelated, but worth sharing in this big update post is that the bakery is for sale! When we opened our doors five years ago, we weren’t sure if this would be a 5-10 year passion project or a lifetime career. As the bakery grew and the city changed, our store began to take on more of a restaurant aspect. Our lunchtime and catering business has been steadily growing, and the bread baking that Matt loves has become less of the focus. With this in mind, he’s decided that he’d like to pursue other passions. We are looking for new owners who are excited about taking the bakery in the new direction it is headed. We actually have two couples who are interested in buying it already, and we’ll see where that heads. If YOU want to buy it – please let us know!! 🙂 We will always love GH Cville and will continue to support the bakery in any way we can.
If you couldn’t guess, Matt is headed into the beer industry. Homebrewing has been his passion since we lived in Charlotte, and he has already secured a job as general manager at a brewery opening in town this summer called Random Row Brewing Co. His experience at Great Harvest in inventory, operations, employee management and the like will transfer well. He likes to say he’s just going to be working with bread in liquid form : )
As for me, I’m happy and excited for the future. I’m an extremely optimistic and practical person, and I try to see the good in anything. A friend told me recently that suffering stems from worrying about the past or future, so I’m doing my best to try to enjoy each day as it comes. I look forward to sharing the future with you guys!